8 Top Tips To Help You Have an Orgasm During Sex

Many women and folks with a vagina struggle to reach orgasm during sexual activity with a partner. In fact, only 10% to 15% of women say they can climax easily. So, the most important thing to know is that if you struggle to orgasm, there is nothing wrong with you, and this is a problem a lot of women have. Although, this doesn’t stop it from being both frustrating and discouraging. While it is partially true that an orgasm isn’t always the goal of sex, it certainly is preferable to have one. Do you struggle to let go and be solely in the moment? Are you unsure how to communicate what you like? Or, is it something else? Then, you may want to try out the following tips!

1. Explore your body

The first and most important tip is to get to know your body. Get to know what you like and what your body responds to. This will make sex easier with a partner if you already know how to make yourself have an orgasm. Bump up the solo fun and really explore your body. The typical sweet spots are the clitoris, vulva, vagina, breasts, and nipples. So, experiment with these using different strokes to see what feels good. But don’t stop there. Many also have other parts of their body that really turn them on when touched. It’s all about experimenting and having fun with yourself.

2. Communicate with your partner

Sometimes the reason you might struggle to reach orgasm is because your partner doesn’t understand what you need. Communicating your needs sounds fairly simple, but it can be really difficult. If you are worried about hurting your partner’s feelings, you shouldn’t be. They will want you to have an orgasm just as much as you do. You don’t have to sit them down and have a huge discussion about this (unless you want to of course). Instead, during sex, offer them some guidance. Tell them if you like something they are doing. Show them how you liked to be touched, and where. These little cues will help you have an orgasm and bring you closer together.

3. Spend more time on foreplay

It’s no big secret that clitoral stimulation is essential for most women and folks with a vagina to have an orgasm, which is why foreplay is so crucial. Studies show that women are more likely to orgasm if their sexual encounters involve deep kissing, genital stimulation, and oral sex. Before you start having sex, ask your partner to take time to touch and kiss your body. Having your clitoris stimulated before sex will increase your chances of having an orgasm during. Unfortunately, many men rush through foreplay or skip it altogether to get straight into having penetrative sex. If this is the case with your partner, ask them to slow down a bit. After all, foreplay is pleasurable for them too and will lead to hotter sex.

4. Try different positions

As mentioned before, it’s all about the clitoris. So, it’s a good idea to try positions that either stimulate your clitoris or make it easier to reach. Being on top may also help as this way you have full control over the movements. Everyone likes different things, so experiment with a range of positions to see what feels good.

5. Switch off from your thoughts

One of the main reasons you may struggle to have an orgasm is due to overthinking. Maybe you’re thinking about your day, or what you need to do tomorrow, or are feeling self-conscious about your looks. These can all be a real mood-killer and block any big O moments. Try to detach from your thoughts and focus solely on the moment. Focus on your sensations, your breath, and your partner’s breath. It is just you and them in this moment, and any other thought you have can wait.

6. Introduce toys into the bedroom

Coming back to that all-important clitoris, sex toys are a simple way to ensure you’re getting the stimulation you need. Plus, introducing sex toys to the bedroom adds a new layer of excitement and freshness. There are many options out there for you to experiment with that can bring pleasure to you and your partner.

7. Speak with a sex therapist

If you’re struggling to have an orgasm during sex, or even masturbation, there’s no harm in talking with a professional. Sex can be very complex, and if you have had bad experiences in the past, this can prevent you from enjoying it. It may seem embarrassing to seek help for something like this, but it really isn’t. Sex therapists are professionals and have helped many others just like you. They can provide you with the counseling you need and give you specialized techniques for your situation. You will be in the safe and non-judgmental hands of a trained professional, so don’t hesitate to ask for help.

8. Listen to Passion

Finally, listen to Passion’s sound journeys to mentally get in the mood as well as physically. Immerse yourself in the most calming and restorative sounds to fuel the fire of your passion. Experience:

• Less stress and anxiety
• A greater understanding of your body
• Enhanced confidence
• Feeling beautiful and sexy
• Enhanced intimacy with your partner

And, most importantly, greater passion. Only with Beginning.com